‘And now for his final act, he will disappear into thin air!’ The final words that should be announced in a new relationship as a warning before.. POOF! Final act, and close curtain. The good news is there’s ways to protect yourself from getting too invested and constantly being the, “magicians assistant,” eagerly waiting front row to be called to the stage to participate in his illusion. I can’t explain why men disappear and wouldn’t want to give false hope that he’ll magically re-appear as quick as you say, ‘abracadabra,’ but the best advice I can give is to ask yourself– is he giving you a reason to stay? Before pulling back the curtain again and again to witness the same illusion, take a step back and see it for what it is and what it’s not. It’s NOT a relationship, it’s NOT something you did, and IT IS a waste of time. The truth is, the person who is meant for you won’t disappear. Regardless if you slept together too soon or said the wrong thing or felt needy at times. The guy for you will be there to hold your hand and take a bow at the end of the show. The ‘audience’ will be replaced by close friends and family watching you on the alter instead of a stage. No tricks here.. and I’ll give a standing ovation to that! To rewind a bit, those who found their special person went through similar ups and downs, and kissed a few frogs before finding their prince. The best thing to do is to keep your options open while on the pursuit of happiness. Like my mom always says, “don’t put all your eggs in one basket,” emphasizing the importance of not committing unless the feelings are mutual. Not only will it give you a chance to enjoy being single while you can, but you will be less vulnerable. Two people have to be vulnerable to let their guard down and allow someone in, (now I’m picturing a guard standing with his arms crossed). Stand down guard! In other words, just have fun, and let things happen naturally. When the timing is right, your future guy will be there the next day.. and the day after that. So don’t be jaded by the ghost of exes past. Keep your head up and heart open, and you’ll experience the true ‘magic’ of love.